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Research reveals two kinds of high school popularity, which lead to opposite outcomes

In the intricate social tapestry of high school, two distinct threads of popularity emerge with starkly different consequences, as revealed by Mitch Prinstein's research. Likable popularity, characterized by genuine traits that foster trust and inclusion, tends to lead individuals toward fulfilling lives marked by stable relationships and career success. In contrast, status popularity, driven by influence and power rather than genuine affection, is linked to long-term issues such as depression and relationship difficulties. This bifurcation highlights a critical societal shift where status, once a fleeting adolescent concern, now lingers into adulthood, exacerbated by the pervasive influence of social media.

Prinstein's insights underscore a growing cultural dilemma: the allure of status popularity is intensified by modern media landscapes, which perpetuate superficial values through likes and followers. Yet, the path to enduring happiness lies in cultivating authentic connections, emphasizing kindness and inclusivity over transient power. This research not only sheds light on the outcomes of different types of popularity but also serves as a call to reevaluate what we value in our social interactions, both offline and online.

Constructive analysis

The constructive-journalism lens: not just what happened, but what works.

The problem
The challenge is the societal emphasis on status popularity, which prioritizes power and influence over genuine connections.
The actions
Prinstein advocates for focusing on likeability by developing traits that foster trust and inclusion, such as being a better listener and encouraging others.
Evidence of progress
Research indicates that likeable popular individuals tend to have more successful and fulfilling lives, while those with status popularity face higher risks of mental health issues.
What we can learn
Others can learn to prioritize genuine relationships over superficial status, fostering environments where kindness and inclusivity are valued.
PERMA profile of this story

How this story scores across the PERMA dimensions.

Positive Emotion
6
Engagement
7
Relationships
8
Meaning
7
Accomplishment
5
PERMA

Character strengths in play

Top VIA strengths this story embodies.

  • Curiosity

    Prinstein's analysis of the research indicates that people who are likeable popular are more likely to end up in a happy marriage with well-adjusted kids and a successful career.

  • Perspective

    Prinstein shared that it seemed to start with 24-hour cable news shows, then spread to reality TV and social media.

  • Kindness

    Ensure that everyone feels welcome and included when you’re in a group.

Try this today

Reflect on a person you genuinely like and identify the traits that endear them to you. Consider how you can embody these qualities in your interactions, focusing on being a better listener and fostering inclusivity in your social circles.